I have always liked taking care of myself, dressing nicely, wearing make up and making the most of what I have. Even if I'm fat!! Imagine that! A fatty that doesn't dress in a sack and doesn't just let herself go completely because the pounds have piled on. Ok, so I like to eat and I might be a bit lazy, but it doesn't mean that I don't wash or want to look nice. It doesn't mean that I am totally in still either. I work everyday, walk around the office a whole day, I love swimming and try to do it as often as I can, I love walking and enjoy all things that other people slimmer than me enjoys. But some people are being so ignorant without really thinking about it cause every so often I receive comments/compliments like "oh but you look really good" or "but you have such a good eye for clothes and dressing nicely" "where do you get hold of clothes that are that nice in your size?" «You really suits black» "have you lost weight? You look so pretty now" and so on... It's kind of a backhand compliment. And saying to someone that they are not fat when they are fat is just an insult in itself cause I am fat and I am beautiful! How many times haven't I heard people saying "if you lost some weight you would have that killer body with those boobs and those cheekbones" or "you would be really cute if you lost some weight"? Lots of times. I bet the most of you have heard similar things.
I also know people that can't understand how I can be happy and proud of myself since I'm fat. Not naming names, but someone close to me that I know loves me a lot doesn't find it easy to say to me that I look nice or that I'm pretty when I show photos that I'm proud of. It does hurt as I want this person to see my outer beauty as well as my kindness and happy personality. Internee trills are in a league of their own. They can say what they want and hide behind their anonymous names. Its a chapter on it own that I'm sure most of you also know how is. People also assume that I'm stupid since I'm fat. People have said to me before "ooh so you have a masters degree in politics. I would never have thought that of you" and "so you know 6 languages? you must be very smart then" what have total strangers that I had never spoken to before just assume I was stupid? Because I'm blonde or because I'm fat? I even knew this one girl that was far from as fat as me, and she didn't think she deserved to be loved! I remember asking her why she thought that, and she said that no man would want her cause she was to fat cause all men likes slim women. I said to her, but look at me I'm a lot fatter than you and I have Mike. She said yes, but that's different cause you are self confident. She said that she didn't manage to feel good about herself thanks to the body hysteria there is everywhere. She saw perfect love in movies with picture perfect people and thought that that was how it is supposed to be. She later lost half her body weight, but is still single. Its just so incredibly sad that people are being brainwashed to think that slim is the only beautiful. Everyone is beautiful in their own way no matter if you are fat or slim. Excuse my misspellings and non paragraphed post, but I had started this post a few Weeks back and finished it now on my phone when I couldn't sleep. X x x Mookie 
Well said Mookie. There's a very narrow view of beauty at the moment because of what the media says is beautiful. It needs to be quashed, hopefully it will be quashed and until then we'll keep posting things like this to help other fat people feel good about themselves. x x
ReplyDeleteI think that a lot of big people will find it easier to be themselves if more and more strong girls like us show the world that we are not going to be tied down in black baggy clothes even if we are fat. :) I'm proud and I love life most of the time, so would I want to waste my life away!! xx
DeleteGreat post. This is what we have to fight against. Not daily unless you have such an asshole as workmate, but often. I think it's a tilt at windmills. But our armee is growing. And at some point we are enough to bringt this windmill to fall. :)
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♡ Mel xoxo
Yes, exactly Mel. That is so true and fortunately I have great work colleagues so being me is no problem. :) We just have to show the world that we are beautiful and strong people that lives our lives how life should be lived.
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