I've Fallen Out Of Love With....

Hello everyone.

How are you all doing? Did you all have a nice Christmas and New Year celebration? Happy New Year to you all as well.

I had a rather painful and boring Christmas and New Year and start to the year since I had to spend it all in the hospital. All the travel plans Mike and I had for the long 10 days had to be cancelled which  was a downer, but we tried to make the best out of the situation and at least we got to spend time together despite me being bedridden in a hospital bed!! 3 times in and out of the hospital in as many weeks has given me a lot of time to think and a lot of time to consider what is important to me in life. And that is something I would like to share with you.

If you are a reader of my blog you've probably have noticed I've not written much lately. This has mostly to do with that I've fallen out of love with blogging. And especially plus size blogging. It's become a chore for me to do the posts as I don't really feel like sharing it. I have found that the extreme competitiveness in blogging is something I can't take part in because I know I wouldn't win anyway. And that is fine, cause I'm not out to win, not out to compete, I'm blogging as a fun way of showing off my style, keeping a style diary for myself and I only see writing as a hobby. I'm not making this post into a complaining post about what other bloggers do or how they should write their blogs. Other bloggers should do what they want to do. And do how they feel are right for them. For a while I too were trying to compete, but soon realised that it's not for me as it really takes so much effort and messes with my head in a very unhealthy way, so I took a break.  It was just not for me. And why shouldn't it be ok to be different and instead of taking part in this social media interaction and blogging blogging race? And just sit back and write what you want, when you want and do social media when you feel like it. I don't have it naturally in me to spend hours every day on social media or blogging for that matter cause I prioritise differently. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong in setting your blog first or spending hours on social media. If you want to do that, then do that. It's your life. I just can't do it!!!

I have chosen to focus more and more on my real life. My real friends, my daughter,  my lovely husband and all the things I appreciate in life like travelling, being with friends, going to watch football, going to gigs, planning new adventures and most of my physical health and my mental health. I've been so much poorly the last two years that I've had to rethink how to do things in order to not become completely exhausted by it all and blogging has become less and less important. Don't get me wrong. I still like blogging and sharing things with you, but I have to do it on my terms and only my terms. I can't have a set deadline to when a post go out or me having to get photos done for a set day cause I might not be able to do it. I might be too poorly or too busy living my life to do. I might be away on one of my many travels, I might be out there at a hospital having an important scan or I might just have a day where I simply can't be bothered!!! And that should be ok too!


  1. You know I've had my struggles with blogging and have come full circle to a place where I'm really enjoying it again, and that's because I've stopped caring what anyone else thinks of me. I don't write for anyone else, I don't get dressed for anyone else but me, and I don't give two shits what my critics think of me either. They ain't paying my bills. ;) Just write for you, when you want to write, and it'll come when it comes. You've been through so much it's only natural you're bone tired and don't want to blog. Let other people do their thing and just know there are LOADS of us who are happy to go along at our own speed without grasping to get ahead. It doesn't feel like it we're in the majority though as the others tend to shout louder. ;) Just do you. xxx

  2. Mookie, I completely understand how you feel. Sometimes blogging starts to feel like a chore to me as well, and that's when I know it's time to take a break from it. It should be something you love and enjoy, so it's totally OK to take a step back. You need to do what makes you happy. If you feel like writing a post, great! But if you don't, that's OK too. The people who love you and your blog will be here for you in any case. xx